Shadow Work or LOA

Did you ever wonder how effective Shadow Work by Carl Jung is?  When I was in college, I learned about Carl Jung and felt a strange belief, an alignment with him and what he delved into.

However, I always had issues with psychology in general because it was fixated on finding something wrong with people!  So, I found issues with all of psychology, and thought there was more to it, that people were far more than one little part of their lives, or any observable behavior.

Shadow work involves looking at fears, the parts of you that you didn’t or weren’t able to observe, to shed light on them and to actually gain strength and understanding.

Yet, my experience was the opposite!  Every time I looked hard at what I feared, I created more of that!  So the Law of Attraction is always at work…

The Law of Attraction says that whatever you focus on you create, and it’s true no matter how good the intention is.  If the focus is fear, weakness, and problems, guess what I was creating more of?

(See the rest of this blog and my newer one at www.sourcehearsyes.com for more info on using your own intuition about what to do.)

I’ve met a lot of people through my work as a teacher, guidance counselor, and LOA Life Coach that really think they have to “work through” and struggle with their past in order to figure it out.  Nothing could be further from the truth.

Sometimes we just can’t see or believe for a while, even if someone is pointing it out.  We like to stay and complain for a while, often for decades about the same problem, rather than truly shining the light on it or ourselves.  Shining the light feels like forgiveness and freedom, it feels like choice, it feels like movement into something new.  That is why I love Abraham, to always guide me towards what is good for me.

BUT I can only reach so far with LOA, so the changes need to be gradual.

I finally heard an Abraham-Hicks video on this exact topic, but have known that we can’t feel good looking at our problems!  I’ve always felt more comfortable looking at what is right, at our strengths, at our gifts.  I hope you enjoy this LOA gem, and remember to keep moving forward in positive momentum toward your joys.  Stay in the light, don’t keep looking at the dark!

I became a life coach because I believe in the goodness of people, that they deserve to feel great.  If you are ready to focus yourself into your greatness, text or call me for a free 15 minute consult at 848-232-8392.

LOA and Sleep Problems with children

LOA and Sleep; no matter what you believe, it’s good to evaluate (in a fun way) where you can make some changes so that you can get a good night.

I became a very light sleeper as soon as my first daughter was born (14 years ago) because my mothering instinct just kept me awake.  I blamed the hormones.

Then, I had two more girls, my middle one with moderate sleep apnea, and my youngest needing less sleep than the others, even at 3.  I was desperate at some point, and my husband was also losing a lot of sleep and wasn’t his best at work.  Attitudes were cranky and we were using way too much caffeine.  Even so, everybody’s sleep patterns were changing (and still are) and so I had to realize that it’s better to let go of the outcome and make this not so important.  That I didn’t want to desperately “need” sleep.  And, worse, I didn’t want to try to control every little thing in my environment or what my kids were doing.

I wanted to use the law of attraction to change our sleep patterns and I did successfully.  I got used to the idea that it’s all temporary, it’s all changing–gradually each day–and that I can guide my mindset where I wanted to.

I started telling myself that I just want to feel good (classic LOA  and Abraham-Hicks) and started thinking about what that looked like.  To me, it looked like happy kids playing, laughing, and having fun doing all they love throughout the day, and cooperating and being harmonious.  To me, it looked like me having energy and joy when speaking with my children and me also having fun with them, being a great teacher.

(The trick here is thinking more about being happy and the good things in life that I do really want, and leaving sleep out of the equation, more than focusing on the lack of sleep and all of the potential problems concerning sleep that I could have spend many minutes or even hours complaining or explaining to others about).

In the beginning, try to realize that the Universe/Source IS supporting you, but has been giving you what you have been stating is your reality.  Only YOU can change that.  As you wake up at times you wouldn’t want to be awake or put a child back to bed, reassure yourself that you can be fully present for this moment and make good decisions, even if it’s just to be a happy enough parent to soothe your child, read a story, or just tell a story one more time.

And, don’t forget being thankful for the sleep that you do have, but leave it at that.  Don’t focus too much on sleep if you are not getting enough.  Focus on something else, how stillness and quiet feels in the night.  How a warm, sleeping body sounds next to you in bed.  What your beautiful children smell like, and how adorable they look as they drift off to sleep.  How safe and happy and securing it is to put little ones to bed and have some time to yourself.  How nice it is to wake up refreshed and feeling great.  Feeling free is also a good emotion to enjoy, even in your mind, because it helps you to have ore time freedom for yourself.  And, be thankful about how all of the answers you are seeking are open to you right now.

So, to recap,

  • Make sleep not so important and focused on–Instead think of the other things you are wanting and are happy about.  Just realizing that focusing on Lack of Sleep is the opposite of what you want might be enough to prompt a change within you.
  • Realize that gradual changes can turn into the lasting changes you want.
  • Visualize what you want (sound sleep even if only for a few hours), and literally ignore all you can about what you don’t want (because sleep is a loaded issue, you want to not talk/complain about it).
  • Make the best of every situation when you have to “be” awake–alone or with the kids.  Show the kids a the happiest parent you can be.
  • Be thankful for all the good, all the time, all the freedom, and all the blessings you do have.  What you focus on expands, this is the law of attraction.
  • Because everything is temporary anyhow, remember that everything is working out for you.

And if you are curious as to how my kids sleep patterns worked out, my oldest started staying up until 11 pm when she was in 6th grade, and it’s something I’m not worried about and have “let it go”.  My middle gets up to use the bathroom and goes right back to bed, usually with someone else, but she does fall asleep easily now.  She still wakes up at 4 am but does go back to sleep after that.  My little one just needs less than everybody else, so I don’t fight these things.  Overall, we have the sleep we need.  I am so thankful that this is where we are at!

You can do this as well, get clear about the good things you do want, and ignore as much as you can about what you don’t want.  You’ll get there!  It might take months and some nightly massages (those helped us a lot) or some other good inspiration will come to you, like speaking of peaceful things at bedtime or being thankful as you are all in bed.  Something will come and you will know what to do.  Just be open to what that is, and don’t worry about How the Universe can give you what you want.

Much love and may blessings from Jen C., the LOA Life Coach

What We Are Able to Perceive

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What we are able to perceive is a reflection of the state of mind and heart we are in.  Did you ever notice that when you are in a bad mood, more bad things keep happening?  Or if you are in a good mood, there is no end to the fun you have?

The reason is that we are only able to perceive within whatever vibration we are in.

  • If we are vibing “no money” we keep seeing no money in the situations we encounter and in our bank accounts.
  • If we are vibing “bad relationships” many things can go wrong within a few different relationships, even ones we enjoy.
  • If we are vibing “sickness”, we get more sickness!

The way to get out of this cycle, is to intend to feel good before you even get out of bed.  Intend to feel what God wants us to feel, which is good, relief, joy, happiness, and comfort.  Of course, there are many more higher energy vibes you could begin with, but I think this is a great starting point.  Where ever you are at, you can make the decision to just start being happy for no reason, and watch the LOA do it’s job.  Life gets easier and easier when you are being a Deliberate Creator, enjoying the process of vibing what you want, rather than waiting for the other shoe to drop all the time.

So, we are only able to perceive certain things, and the emotions and powers we want to have or be, sometimes seem invisible to us…and that is actually true.  With so many realities to choose from, we literally could be anything we want.  We get to choose, we get to pick that vibe.  Pay attention–wake up!  See what you are really vibing today, and see what it makes you wish to intend for tomorrow as you are laying in bed.

Intend to feel good, and pick one of the categories above to plan out better feelings for–Money, Relationships, or Health, and see where you are after doing it for 30 days.  Your gradual change will almost guarantee your success, so you can look at your life and actually feel great looking at it, as is, rather than how you would like it to be.  BUT, until then, use your imagination to get where you want to go, stay happy along the way, and you will get there!  Your better overall mood will bring you better results in your whole life, so all three topics could be affected at the same time.

Put your best vibe out there!  Your Highest Self feels the best emotions for you, and you can also.  If you don’t like your results, start vibing something more…expand yourself so that you can BE more.  Your perceptions will change over time.

Much love, and many blessings from Jen C., the LOA Life Coach.

Practicing Enjoyment and Delight with Sisters and Children

I’ve decided I am a master at practicing enjoyment and delight.  No matter where I am or what I am doing, I have fun or make things lighter.  I’ve been practicing the vibe of “fun” just because that is what I want my life to be.  Oh, and how it works.  When I take the time to really align with my Source (and you can also), Source loves me and shows me the fun. Yet, I have to take a step and actually be willing to have the fun.  Somewhere along the way, life got serious for me, but I got goofy and playful instead.  Here’s one way I practice the vibration of delight: More