LOA and Sleep Problems with children

LOA and Sleep; no matter what you believe, it’s good to evaluate (in a fun way) where you can make some changes so that you can get a good night.

I became a very light sleeper as soon as my first daughter was born (14 years ago) because my mothering instinct just kept me awake.  I blamed the hormones.

Then, I had two more girls, my middle one with moderate sleep apnea, and my youngest needing less sleep than the others, even at 3.  I was desperate at some point, and my husband was also losing a lot of sleep and wasn’t his best at work.  Attitudes were cranky and we were using way too much caffeine.  Even so, everybody’s sleep patterns were changing (and still are) and so I had to realize that it’s better to let go of the outcome and make this not so important.  That I didn’t want to desperately “need” sleep.  And, worse, I didn’t want to try to control every little thing in my environment or what my kids were doing.

I wanted to use the law of attraction to change our sleep patterns and I did successfully.  I got used to the idea that it’s all temporary, it’s all changing–gradually each day–and that I can guide my mindset where I wanted to.

I started telling myself that I just want to feel good (classic LOA  and Abraham-Hicks) and started thinking about what that looked like.  To me, it looked like happy kids playing, laughing, and having fun doing all they love throughout the day, and cooperating and being harmonious.  To me, it looked like me having energy and joy when speaking with my children and me also having fun with them, being a great teacher.

(The trick here is thinking more about being happy and the good things in life that I do really want, and leaving sleep out of the equation, more than focusing on the lack of sleep and all of the potential problems concerning sleep that I could have spend many minutes or even hours complaining or explaining to others about).

In the beginning, try to realize that the Universe/Source IS supporting you, but has been giving you what you have been stating is your reality.  Only YOU can change that.  As you wake up at times you wouldn’t want to be awake or put a child back to bed, reassure yourself that you can be fully present for this moment and make good decisions, even if it’s just to be a happy enough parent to soothe your child, read a story, or just tell a story one more time.

And, don’t forget being thankful for the sleep that you do have, but leave it at that.  Don’t focus too much on sleep if you are not getting enough.  Focus on something else, how stillness and quiet feels in the night.  How a warm, sleeping body sounds next to you in bed.  What your beautiful children smell like, and how adorable they look as they drift off to sleep.  How safe and happy and securing it is to put little ones to bed and have some time to yourself.  How nice it is to wake up refreshed and feeling great.  Feeling free is also a good emotion to enjoy, even in your mind, because it helps you to have ore time freedom for yourself.  And, be thankful about how all of the answers you are seeking are open to you right now.

So, to recap,

  • Make sleep not so important and focused on–Instead think of the other things you are wanting and are happy about.  Just realizing that focusing on Lack of Sleep is the opposite of what you want might be enough to prompt a change within you.
  • Realize that gradual changes can turn into the lasting changes you want.
  • Visualize what you want (sound sleep even if only for a few hours), and literally ignore all you can about what you don’t want (because sleep is a loaded issue, you want to not talk/complain about it).
  • Make the best of every situation when you have to “be” awake–alone or with the kids.  Show the kids a the happiest parent you can be.
  • Be thankful for all the good, all the time, all the freedom, and all the blessings you do have.  What you focus on expands, this is the law of attraction.
  • Because everything is temporary anyhow, remember that everything is working out for you.

And if you are curious as to how my kids sleep patterns worked out, my oldest started staying up until 11 pm when she was in 6th grade, and it’s something I’m not worried about and have “let it go”.  My middle gets up to use the bathroom and goes right back to bed, usually with someone else, but she does fall asleep easily now.  She still wakes up at 4 am but does go back to sleep after that.  My little one just needs less than everybody else, so I don’t fight these things.  Overall, we have the sleep we need.  I am so thankful that this is where we are at!

You can do this as well, get clear about the good things you do want, and ignore as much as you can about what you don’t want.  You’ll get there!  It might take months and some nightly massages (those helped us a lot) or some other good inspiration will come to you, like speaking of peaceful things at bedtime or being thankful as you are all in bed.  Something will come and you will know what to do.  Just be open to what that is, and don’t worry about How the Universe can give you what you want.

Much love and may blessings from Jen C., the LOA Life Coach

Adding some Ease into your Friday

This is a really general Abraham Hicks video about Ease and Flow, and because it’s really general, it makes you melt into this delicious vibe of easy. No specifics about where in life you want easy and it works!

I really do like the ease of my world, how I don’t have to control or monitor anything but myself.  Guiding might be the better word!  I try to focus on ease with my parenting, because I want to have an easy going style with my children, I want them to be cooperative and contribute to our harmonious family life, so ease is an essential.

I want that ease with family and friends and groups, with pick ups and drop offs, with exercise, with fun, with stuff I feel I want to get done, with work, with my husband, with phone calls, with paperwork, with technology.  If I practice Ease in general, it shows up in all the places I would expect it to be. More

Practicing Enjoyment and Delight with Sisters and Children

I’ve decided I am a master at practicing enjoyment and delight.  No matter where I am or what I am doing, I have fun or make things lighter.  I’ve been practicing the vibe of “fun” just because that is what I want my life to be.  Oh, and how it works.  When I take the time to really align with my Source (and you can also), Source loves me and shows me the fun. Yet, I have to take a step and actually be willing to have the fun.  Somewhere along the way, life got serious for me, but I got goofy and playful instead.  Here’s one way I practice the vibration of delight: More

Challenging Teen Kids Push Your Buttons

I love being an LOA parent and coach, but my kids still do push my buttons from time to time…or daily.

I keep changing my perspective so that I see myself as an evolving being, so that no one is really right or wrong.  I want my kids to know the power they hold for themselves, so how can I best show them their power?  It’s certainly NOT in taking their power, freedom, favorite things away.  A very misaligned parent takes away from a child to show their power OVER the child.  An aligned parent stays in touch with Source and easily speaks with clarity and grace to her children without expectation that they must obey, for every being is free to decide his/her fate.

And them comes TEENS.  I now have a 13 year old daughter, who is brilliant, funny, and amazing in too many ways to tell you about.  I am glad I can see all the good in her, so when rough moments come, it’s easy to remember.  When a teen pushes your buttons, you need to have your own foundation, and that is within you…All is well, life is easy, every day in every way, I am getting better and better. (And it’s all true!)

You have your own strong foundation, your kids don’t push your buttons!  Get it?

So, here is a video, that gets better as it goes along as well.  The clarity and strength is exactly what I needed to hear about those moments when I’m thinking upstream thoughts, so I can turn them into downstream thoughts about self and having a good relationship with my teen.

Much love, and many blessings from Jen C., the LOA coach

Why My Kids Believe in the Idea of Santa But They Don’t Believe in Santa

Here’s a nice holiday surprise!  My little girls do not believe in Santa.  And I’m the one who made sure of it!  I’ve told them from when they were really young that Santa is really Mommy and Daddy and all the good people that want to give. And we are Santa every day, and they can be Santa also.  I want my children to grow up wanting to give, and at this time of year, it’s easy to have fun with gift giving for us, and for the charities we care about.  And since we do nurture imagination in all of our lives, this was no big deal to allow them to generously give to others for Christmas and every day.

I couldn’t bring myself to tell them a lie after doing the Santa routine with my oldest and having her lose trust in me for carrying it on.  I let her find out and get doubts and finally told her, but it was like she had a burden because we’d lied.

So, I chose to handle it differently with my two littler ones.   More