LOA and Divorce or Fixing Your Marriage?

Abraham says that divorce would never happen if the person was in the vortex! So, why does anyone ever really get divorced? Let’s explore the real reasons! I’m going to discuss how to get happy within your marriage so that you can avoid a divorce to begin with, or get happy and get out of your marriage, so that you can really enjoy your life.

Years ago, I created the Real-Divorce.com site about uncontested divorce to show others how to get divorced peacefully, or amicably, if that is at all possible, so, I am not holding back when I say that the reason anyone ever gets divorced is simply a combination of:

  • the person isn’t happy and also thinks it’s up to his/her partner to create the happiness he/she wants,
  • the person doesn’t accept him/herself,
  • the person finds fault with or blames the partner or others for his/her problems.

Comment below if you agree or disagree with this, but I believe that when a person isn’t happy, and thinks the partner has to do things for him/her, (which most people do if you pay attention), it is an extremely manipulative way of thinking and living.  In fact, it is detrimental to relationships!  Examples of this include: More

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Gaining or Losing Confidence after Divorce

I have to share a really personal story, because I believe it has real relevance for anyone out there. Although losing confidence after divorce is so typical, I believe there is a benefit to notice that gaining confidence IS possible after a life changing event, even if the event appears to be “negative.” It is my experience, that although most divorcing people attempt to get friends and family to understand their side of the arguments they put forth, it is never one-sided!  People in the midst of divorce feel stifled and suffocated by their spouse at times, and sometimes the divorce is seen as the answer to “free” the person of the ball and chain.  Through the divorce, a person can feel free enough to now pursue the ideas, ideals, dreams, or goals that they did not feel they could arrange within the marriage. Truth be told, it theoretically could be possible to be free within the marriage as well, but that would take a path to allow freedom for both partners. Very hard to accept blame when a spouse believes he/she has been wronged, and it’s far easier to blame the other…

If one’s confidence is tied to another’s opinion of you, you will be a sitting duck during a divorce. More