Creative Visualization Gone Wrong

How many times have you told yourself that you want something one specific way, and you visualized all the details, even consciously trying to create the “right” atmosphere in your mind, and then have something completely different manifest?

I know when I completed my MA, I was a special ed teacher and looking to move into a school guidance position.  Yet, when I visualized what I wanted, which was a good paying job that would realize my worth, I “knew” that I was coming in as a new counselor with zero experience, and I let it affect my worth…and I took a paycut to accept the job, which was also subpar. I soon left that job for another, and gaining in confidence, moved $10,000 up the pay scale AND found an amazingly good work environment on all levels, literally the perfect job.

Has that ever happened to you?  Or something similar?  Until I got it right in my mind, I couldn’t have what I wanted physically yet, it couldn’t manifest until I knew I was it. More

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Arguing For My Limitations

I had an almost urgent feeling that I HAD to get this post out. I just took up jogging again, after years of not bothering to even try real cardio. There is good news and good news! But I must start at the beginning and brief you, so you fully understand why it matters where I came from…

I was teaching in Newark when I started jogging, urged along by a coworker, who was a former marathon runner. I was maybe 25 or 26, in great health overall, but never tried jogging outside of high school gym class, where I got winded. After a few runs with my students as part of a jogging program during school, I didn’t get winded any longer. It was getting easy. So easy, I started running at home and loving it.

It kept getting easier, actually. So easy, I was running 4 miles in the morning without breaking a sweat. Eight minute miles without breaking a sweat. Then, I thought, maybe I’ll train for something bigger like a marathon or a half marathon. I started doing longer weekend runs, getting up to 8-10 miles no problem.

All the while, I was considering getting pregnant, and with my (ex) husband wanting to get pregnant faster, I took medical advice that I really didn’t like. More

LOA and Divorce or Fixing Your Marriage?

Abraham says that divorce would never happen if the person was in the vortex! So, why does anyone ever really get divorced? Let’s explore the real reasons! I’m going to discuss how to get happy within your marriage so that you can avoid a divorce to begin with, or get happy and get out of your marriage, so that you can really enjoy your life.

Years ago, I created the Real-Divorce.com site about uncontested divorce to show others how to get divorced peacefully, or amicably, if that is at all possible, so, I am not holding back when I say that the reason anyone ever gets divorced is simply a combination of:

  • the person isn’t happy and also thinks it’s up to his/her partner to create the happiness he/she wants,
  • the person doesn’t accept him/herself,
  • the person finds fault with or blames the partner or others for his/her problems.

Comment below if you agree or disagree with this, but I believe that when a person isn’t happy, and thinks the partner has to do things for him/her, (which most people do if you pay attention), it is an extremely manipulative way of thinking and living.  In fact, it is detrimental to relationships!  Examples of this include: More

Book of Positive Aspects about Children

I’m just starting to use a book of positive aspects about children…I’ve been doing LOA very actively, and with more and more focus and clarity, for over a year. And, I’m sorry I didn’t do this sooner!  In the teachings of Abraham, Esther Hicks speaks about using this book to just enjoy positive things about any topic a person likes.  As the person writes, they think of more and more things that are positive, building a positive vibration about the topic.  When you feel like stopping, you stop.  Change the vibration, little by little, until it’s way more positive than negative…or just keep adding more positive to an already positive vibration.

I’ve heard about the BOPA and all, and I’d read Ask and It Is Given, I’ve journaled and done focus wheels, I’ve written what I am grateful for. I have book after book with notes everywhere. Finally, after somehow not realizing it was so useful, I started to write my own first Book of Positive Aspects–because I finally decided it was time to ONLY write about my children in a positive way.  Frankly, I was tired of having little complaints about my family life (even though they had plenty to complain about as well).

I have already seen a tremendous improvement in my relationship with my children. Just by viewing them with a better light, I have managed in a few days to influence a relationship that has been at times difficult, toward much more positive communication, a new cooperation, and just more kindness.  I am actually in awe of this beautiful process that I have carefully set into motion, and am eager to continue to use. More

Does the Law of Attraction Work and Some Abraham Processes

Have you been wondering, “Does the law of attraction work?”  I meet many people who say it does, and many that do not.

Life has many flavors, colors, feelings, senses, and we are all exposed to various people and situations that shape us into the beings we become. It is never our circumstance itself, but how we view the “hand we are dealt” that determines how we think about ourselves and life.

The law of attraction is what sets up this process of deciding what we like and don’t like, and then as we focus our attention (even the newborn baby will believe it will be cared for–or not) we map out our “emotional set points” for our future lives, and therefore, our happiness.

Sounds crazy, right?

The cool thing is the the law says that if we focus our attention and generally believe that good things will happen, then they will (like an expectation), and that if we believe negative things will happen, then they will.  This article will explain the camps of thought about LOA, and how to use it should you like to test it out for yourself…that is the easy part, so relax into it! More

Gaining or Losing Confidence after Divorce

I have to share a really personal story, because I believe it has real relevance for anyone out there. Although losing confidence after divorce is so typical, I believe there is a benefit to notice that gaining confidence IS possible after a life changing event, even if the event appears to be “negative.” It is my experience, that although most divorcing people attempt to get friends and family to understand their side of the arguments they put forth, it is never one-sided!  People in the midst of divorce feel stifled and suffocated by their spouse at times, and sometimes the divorce is seen as the answer to “free” the person of the ball and chain.  Through the divorce, a person can feel free enough to now pursue the ideas, ideals, dreams, or goals that they did not feel they could arrange within the marriage. Truth be told, it theoretically could be possible to be free within the marriage as well, but that would take a path to allow freedom for both partners. Very hard to accept blame when a spouse believes he/she has been wronged, and it’s far easier to blame the other…

If one’s confidence is tied to another’s opinion of you, you will be a sitting duck during a divorce. More