Love for all at Christmas 2015

This year, I am in awe of the good I’ve created for myself and in the world.  I am really starting to live my core values well, and I see big changes every day.  But, mostly, I am so happy and thankful that I have love for all at Christmas 2015.

I see and hear people complaining about others every day, and I it’s easier to not be affected by this.  The “problems” they complain about are usually their immediate family, friends, boss, coworkers, and neighbors doing them wrong, or people of some group that has somehow wronged someone else.

I challenge this, because I am a LOA coach, and I know that it’s never the other’s fault.  What we see is what we are.  What we experience is what we are.

I know part of the reason I see this is because I’m a coach, and people tend to tell me their stuff and know that I can help in some way.  And I am happy to!  That will never cease, that people will have issues.  I just wish people could also be responsible for their own vibe and not make their unhappiness about others.

If a person is unhappy, it’s not anyone else’s fault.  That person needs to change their perspective TO gain happiness.  Other people don’t need to change a thing.  🙂

And so this whole Christmas thing (and I’m spiritual, not Catholic since I was in college), just reminds me of the truth of the soul, and how I love to see it expressed.  Every time someone complains, there is an unmet need, a desire.  I feel it’s important to help them find their true need, like compassion, to help them pinpoint what they really do want.  And to encourage them that it’s possible to have that.

So, if you complain to me and I stop you and ask you what you really do want, don’t be surprised if you figure it out and your life feels better.  I’ll be praising you for taking the reigns of your own life and I’ll raise a glass to your success this year.  And if your loved ones start complaining to you, you’ll know the best trick to turn the conversation around fast!

Much love and many blessings from Jen C., the LOA Life Coach

 

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  1. Sheila Baranoski
    Dec 27, 2015 @ 04:44:11

    I love this! As I scroll through my Facebook feed, I try to focus on the positive comments and not the negative ones. At Christmas time, though, it seems there are a lot more negative comments than usual. I’m guessing one reason might be that people do *SO* much stuff just because they think other people expect them to do it or because they think it won’t be a nice holiday for their family if they don’t do it. So they scrub down every nook and cranny, spend hours decorating, make 50 different kinds of cookies, mail 100 Christmas cards, cook huge meals for company, and then wonder why they’re so exhausted and miserable! It takes a lot of courage to acknowledge what you do want and stick to it!

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