Creative Visualization Gone Wrong

22 Nov 2014 Leave a comment

by holisticjen in Abraham processes, Abraham-Hicks, Ask and it is Given Tags: , , , , , , , , , , ,

How many times have you told yourself that you want something one specific way, and you visualized all the details, even consciously trying to create the “right” atmosphere in your mind, and then have something completely different manifest?

I know when I completed my MA, I was a special ed teacher and looking to move into a school guidance position.  Yet, when I visualized what I wanted, which was a good paying job that would realize my worth, I “knew” that I was coming in as a new counselor with zero experience, and I let it affect my worth…and I took a paycut to accept the job, which was also subpar. I soon left that job for another, and gaining in confidence, moved $10,000 up the pay scale AND found an amazingly good work environment on all levels, literally the perfect job.

Has that ever happened to you?  Or something similar?  Until I got it right in my mind, I couldn’t have what I wanted physically yet, it couldn’t manifest until I knew I was it. More

Arguing For My Limitations

15 Nov 2014 Leave a comment

by holisticjen in Abraham-Hicks, get into the vortex, listening to inner voice, Personal Power, Uncategorized Tags: , , ,

I had an almost urgent feeling that I HAD to get this post out. I just took up jogging again, after years of not bothering to even try real cardio. There is good news and good news! But I must start at the beginning and brief you, so you fully understand why it matters where I came from…

I was teaching in Newark when I started jogging, urged along by a coworker, who was a former marathon runner. I was maybe 25 or 26, in great health overall, but never tried jogging outside of high school gym class, where I got winded. After a few runs with my students as part of a jogging program during school, I didn’t get winded any longer. It was getting easy. So easy, I started running at home and loving it.

It kept getting easier, actually. So easy, I was running 4 miles in the morning without breaking a sweat. Eight minute miles without breaking a sweat. Then, I thought, maybe I’ll train for something bigger like a marathon or a half marathon. I started doing longer weekend runs, getting up to 8-10 miles no problem.

All the while, I was considering getting pregnant, and with my (ex) husband wanting to get pregnant faster, I took medical advice that I really didn’t like. More

LOA and Divorce or Fixing Your Marriage?

12 Nov 2014 3 Comments

by holisticjen in Abraham-Hicks, divorce, law of attraction, listening to inner voice, LOA, resistance, staying in marriage, stop complaining Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Abraham says that divorce would never happen if the person was in the vortex! So, why does anyone ever really get divorced? Let’s explore the real reasons! I’m going to discuss how to get happy within your marriage so that you can avoid a divorce to begin with, or get happy and get out of your marriage, so that you can really enjoy your life.

Years ago, I created the Real-Divorce.com site about uncontested divorce to show others how to get divorced peacefully, or amicably, if that is at all possible, so, I am not holding back when I say that the reason anyone ever gets divorced is simply a combination of:

  • the person isn’t happy and also thinks it’s up to his/her partner to create the happiness he/she wants,
  • the person doesn’t accept him/herself,
  • the person finds fault with or blames the partner or others for his/her problems.

Comment below if you agree or disagree with this, but I believe that when a person isn’t happy, and thinks the partner has to do things for him/her, (which most people do if you pay attention), it is an extremely manipulative way of thinking and living.  In fact, it is detrimental to relationships!  Examples of this include: More

Book of Positive Aspects about Children

10 Nov 2014 3 Comments

by holisticjen in Abraham-Hicks, Manifesting, Parenting, Uncategorized Tags: , , , , , , , ,

I’m just starting to use a book of positive aspects about children…I’ve been doing LOA very actively, and with more and more focus and clarity, for over a year. And, I’m sorry I didn’t do this sooner!  In the teachings of Abraham, Esther Hicks speaks about using this book to just enjoy positive things about any topic a person likes.  As the person writes, they think of more and more things that are positive, building a positive vibration about the topic.  When you feel like stopping, you stop.  Change the vibration, little by little, until it’s way more positive than negative…or just keep adding more positive to an already positive vibration.

I’ve heard about the BOPA and all, and I’d read Ask and It Is Given, I’ve journaled and done focus wheels, I’ve written what I am grateful for. I have book after book with notes everywhere. Finally, after somehow not realizing it was so useful, I started to write my own first Book of Positive Aspects–because I finally decided it was time to ONLY write about my children in a positive way.  Frankly, I was tired of having little complaints about my family life (even though they had plenty to complain about as well).

I have already seen a tremendous improvement in my relationship with my children. Just by viewing them with a better light, I have managed in a few days to influence a relationship that has been at times difficult, toward much more positive communication, a new cooperation, and just more kindness.  I am actually in awe of this beautiful process that I have carefully set into motion, and am eager to continue to use. More

Does the Law of Attraction Work and Some Abraham Processes

09 Nov 2014 Leave a comment

by holisticjen in Abraham-Hicks, law of attraction, LOA, Manifesting, Uncategorized Tags: , , , , , ,

Have you been wondering, “Does the law of attraction work?”  I meet many people who say it does, and many that do not.

Life has many flavors, colors, feelings, senses, and we are all exposed to various people and situations that shape us into the beings we become. It is never our circumstance itself, but how we view the “hand we are dealt” that determines how we think about ourselves and life.

The law of attraction is what sets up this process of deciding what we like and don’t like, and then as we focus our attention (even the newborn baby will believe it will be cared for–or not) we map out our “emotional set points” for our future lives, and therefore, our happiness.

Sounds crazy, right?

The cool thing is the the law says that if we focus our attention and generally believe that good things will happen, then they will (like an expectation), and that if we believe negative things will happen, then they will.  This article will explain the camps of thought about LOA, and how to use it should you like to test it out for yourself…that is the easy part, so relax into it! More

Law of Attraction and Acne

27 Sep 2014 5 Comments

by holisticjen in Abraham-Hicks, finding self worth, get into the vortex, law of attraction, Manifesting, resistance Tags: , , , , , ,

I would bet many people use the law of attraction to clear up acne, and I’d like to offer my unique perspective on this topic.  I had acne for 32 years, and have finally found the way to have clear skin (notice I didn’t say “acne” there!) on a regular basis.

It took a full year for me to manifest completely clear skin, because it took time to get my thoughts fully positive (and REALLY start practicing self-love) without often thinking that my skin looked bad, that it hurt, that I didn’t like it, let alone the feelings of itchiness or soreness that goes along with having acne.  One of the MAIN tricks was to get my mind on other topics that are fun and that I liked, stuff that makes me happy.  It is a process to get the clear skin, usually not an overnight event.

Doing these two things, offering little/no resistance about acne, AND just being generally positive about myself (any aspect of myself) and about life, was the right combination to bring me the clear and easy skin I was wanting.  It was okay that I’d lived with acne for so many years.  I forgave myself because I didn’t know that I had the control I have now.  I looked forward to running my fingers over my face when I washed it and feeling smooth skin.  I felt eager to take a shower to feel smooth skin, and I knew I could find clear patches of skin more on my body more than my face.

I looked forward to any opportunity to praise the good in my skin:  the softness, the color, the warmth, the smoothness, how my children want to snuggle with me, and how my husband gives me big hugs and happily feels my skin.  I love the feeling of getting into my bed and feeling the coolness of the satiny sheets, and putting on lovely clothes that fit me well and compliment me.  I love the feeling of looking great, thinking that my smile was so much more telling of who I was.  I loved knowing that since this is all temporary, I will be manifesting clear and beautiful skin soon, and keeping it that way.

As time and changes came, I’ve milked the compliments also, relishing how much better I started looking, because INSIDE, I was feeling better and more confident.

I had to take care of the resistance, or the negative thoughts I had about acne, by remembering that my body knows how to heal itself, and that this acne is only temporary.  What is lasting is my beautiful opinion of myself.  My self-worth is something that should never change, and like faith, it should be unwaivering.  My opinion IS always changing, but, into more and more good about myself.  I don’t have time for any thoughts on fear or doubt, but instead I pre-pave my day by remembering the good in myself, the support I am given, the nice things I do for others, and how all these things make me feel—amazingly powerful, loved and loving, and passionate about all I am doing.  Peace has been another key component here–the more peace I felt, the easier my life became, and the more ease I felt, the more peaceful I became.

The law of attraction just says that what you think about is what you become.  So, thinking the positive things (substituting the positive for the looking at what is type negative thoughts) allowed me to become more positive.  Good things, love, peace, appreciation, ease, fun, clarity, were the ways I got there.  Just thinking about wanting to have more of those feelings often helped me to manifest clear skin consistently, and especially every time I had a stressful moment.  True, it’s great to have clear skin, but what about when I am hit with a new bout of acne?  I already know that by focusing my mind in such a way that I only think about what I want, the acne goes away VERY quickly, and all symptoms were less than what they’d been for the decades before I practiced LOA.

And, like the Silva Method teaches, I would also affirm that “Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better” often.  See my positive affirmations and acne article as well for more easy tips on clearing up acne.

With the law of attraction, remember that “out of sight, out of mind” works especially well for acne, as you can easily cover up skin that has a blemish until it is gone, and it’s less likely to irritate you in the process.  Getting rid of the mirrors also works well, because you may be less likely to check the progress so often.  I always found that when I went on vacation (because I was camping there was little time in a bathroom with a mirror!), my skin healed well.  I was feeling great AND offering little resistance, so again, that combination is the key to your best skin, regardless of how “bad” you think your acne is now—follow these simple and easy law of attraction tips and you will be amazed at your results.

Share now so that others can also learn this easy technique!

Much love and blessings!

LOA and Increasing Personal Power

06 Sep 2014 3 Comments

by holisticjen in Abraham-Hicks, Get Happy, Gratitude, Personal Power, telling the universe Tags: , , , ,

Anyone interested in LOA and increasing personal power is in for a treat today. I am going to give you a treat. I feel your thankfulness, and you are welcome. I want you to attain your goals, and I love being a cheerleader for all the things you want and think would be fun.

Some of the greatest teachings of Abraham-Hicks are these gems about gaining personal power, combined with some of my own experiences, which are certainly evolving as I progress through life as an Aber.  I even wrote a self-love report to help you learn and test manifesting, which of course A-H has inspired within me.  You can get it here for free, and it’s not available anywhere else.

  • Listen to this amazing Abraham-Hicks morning appreciation video and this one on increasing personal power first.
  • Realize that anything that is important is in our hearts, and the only thing that gives us strength is what we can give away to empower or inspire ourselves and others.
  • Know and believe fully that you are a conscious creator of your world, that you are contributing to the greater good and expansion of the universe, that life is good and fun, that you are only good (even if you were ever told differently), that in choosing to focus on something to make yourself happy or feeling appreciation is the strongest power you have.
  • Know and believe that you have the chance to create clarity by pre-paving your day.  You must not stay stuck in chaotic mental chatter, getting yourself nowhere every day.  You will know if this is happening because you will have the same results.  You must choose to have clarity in your life to lesson the doubt and worries you have, simply by asking for clarity.  Clarity helps the answers you have been asking to come to you.  When answers do come, and they will, listen to your internal voice and take action.  And be thankful right in that moment, bask in that moment, and more and more clarity WILL begin to come on a more regular basis.
  • Leave all your ideas about exactly HOW to get where you want to go in life OUT OF THE PICTURE.  If you continue to dictate to the universe or God every little detail about what you want, you will constantly be pulled out of the vortex as you realize it hasn’t manifested yet.  Don’t make this manifesting mistake; instead, just continue to have focus on just feeling happy in the moment and bask and enjoy as much of your life, your blessings, your time with family and friends, your job, your home, your car, etc…so that you continue to build more good feelings in each area of your life.
  • I am reading this awesome book called 365 Thank Yous: The Year A Simple Act of Gratitude Changed My Life, by John Kralik.  Since I believe that one of the best ways to influence others is just by noticing who they really are and appreciating them, and since writing a thank you can be a way to reach lots of various people in your life, I believe that this is a practice that can help anyone achieve their goals, but not because of the focus on achieving something.  Rather, feelings change from negative to positive as a person creates a focus on something to appreciate in others.  Really, everything is a gift, and when you take the time to “note” who is gifting to you, you create an amazing circle of kindness, that will in turn just keep coming back to you tenfold.

I challenge you, to look at your desires right now, and decide that if you are not reaching those goals, that you can dedicate yourself to changing even one small thing about your thinking, and even taking some action to writing a thank you note.

I would love to hear how you chose to increase your own power at any point in your life…what did you do, and how can others replicate it so that they can also do it?

Much love!

 

Manifesting Your Desires Using LOA

30 Aug 2014 1 Comment

by holisticjen in Abraham-Hicks, finding self worth, Follow your bliss, Get Happy, get into the vortex, Inspired Action, listening to inner voice, Louise Hay, Manifesting, resistance, stop complaining, telling the universe, You Can Heal Your Life Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Telling the Universe exactly what you want, in a clear and concise way, is such an important step in manifesting your desires using LOA, or the law of attraction.  If you had every single thing you wanted, and also knew without question, that you could easily manifest any future things you wanted, you wouldn’t want anyone else’s help or opinions about life, but I would suppose that there are a few areas of your life that you do want improvement in?

So, let me start by saying that only your own opinion does matter, and that you should only look within yourself for the answers you are seeking.  And, that focusing on the areas of your life that you want to see a change can be good, IF you can focus your thoughts into feeling like the results you actually want…for example, if you want to have more money flowing, you would picture yourself with more money and create an image of you actually having it.  Each time you envision this, you are allowing the money to flow more easily as long as you are also not creating resistance to money.  Over time, you practice this higher vibration, and develop ways to be ever more free about money, realizing that life was meant to be easy and fun (not a struggle at all, so if you feel that money IS a struggle, it won’t come easily to you).  My favorite money games are the Abraham-Hicks processes in Ask and It is Given. The first game is spending $100 over and over all day until you’ve spend it many times, in essence, spending many hundreds of dollars or thousands of dollars.  You realize that “I could buy that if I wanted to” over and over again.  Creates a major consciousness shift.

Louise Hay writes in her book, You Can Heal Your Life, that when bills come, welcome them.  Send love to your mailbox and affirm that your mailbox only brings you love notes and wealth.  When the bill comes, if you are thankful that you have the ability to pay, because someone has trusted you to do so, you will be able to pay it.  So, do it with love and appreciation for the money you DO have.

If you want more love in your life, start with yourself…are you loving yourself?  When you say, “I want a great relationship,” it won’t come if you don’t feel great about yourself.  You get what you ARE right back.  The person you are attracted to is going to be an exact match to your point of attraction.  If you are in a relationship or married, think about where you were at when you attracted this person into your life.  I wonder if you can think back to the things that were so amazing and good about your partner, and focus on those things, in order to bring your relationship to a better status.  What you praise increases, and this law is called the Law of Increase.  Whatever you are focused on–good or bad–is what you will get more of.  Just look at some real life examples and you’ll understand if this is true!

The main idea though, is to find that really happy and joyous place and exist there all the time.  Before you make major decisions, before you get in an argument, before you choose a new job or a new home, or a new car, get in the vortex and be happy.  When you are happy on purpose, you will be inspired to action; this action is the action that will bring you lasting good.  Before you eat or drink, get in the vortex, and you will be guided towards what is right for you for your best health.  Get happy and follow your bliss in every topic you care about.

Over time, if you choose to get into the vortex, you will certainly feel better about every topic.  The more you relax, allow your goodness to flow, and choose your focus on anything you want (by praising it), you are inviting every good thing you want.  You don’t need to be super specific, either.  Be general on any topic that has some resistance within it.  Don’t activate the resistance, instead, just leave that topic out of the picture, and focus on the big picture, which is usually very good.

What is in your heart?  What inspires you most?  What do you really feel the need to do in this lifetime that you just can’t give up on?  What kinds of people DO you really want to be surrounded by?

Don’t worry about HOW!  Leave HOW completely out of it!  Just feel good (think about nature, think about good friends and family, think about wonderful moments you’ve had, think about fun you’ve had, think about things you want to do, as long as it doesn’t bring up a feeling of lacking it now).

  • “Get into the vortex, and then” is what Esther Hicks always says…
  • See what you are inspired to.
  • Act only on those good feeling things.
  • Give yourself 30 days to feel good about yourself using “I AM” statements.
  • Stop complaining about everything in your life.
  • Stop managing anyone else’s life, but do guide your own thoughts into good statements in some way.
  • Study your results at the beginning of each month, and adjust to get happier.

You WILL get the hang of this, and I believe in you!

Much love!

 

 

 

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